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February 24, 2016
How to be your best cheerleader
Earlier this week, Ole wrote about her realisation that you have to be your own biggest cheerleader, and we loved the advice Madeline McQueen gave for that piece so much we wanted to share some more of it with you. So here are McQueen’s top tips on how to be your best cheerleader…
Change the mantra, start speaking positive words to yourself and about yourself. Start using affirmations these all start with “I am…” and never use negatives. So “I am beautiful” instead of “I am not ugly”, “I am wealthy” rather than “I am debt free” See the difference? Don’t focus on what you don’t to be or on the thing you don’t want in your life focus on what you want. “I am debt free” still has a focus on debt and not abundance. Create a range of these and use them daily, put them around your house and office to remind you to say them out loud to yourself. You need to change the way you think about yourself to become your own cheerleader.
Stop telling yourself that you’re an idiot.. you are not and remember those are successful don’t say this about themselves and they definitely don’t fret the small stuff
Do more and you’ll do more. The more you step out of your comfort zone the more you’ll step out of your comfort zone
Stop comparing yourself to others and frying their fish… you’ve got your own fish to fry. Too often we spend time looking at others thinking that they are better than us, we don’t realise they are often looking at us and saying the same thing.
Stop focusing on what you think people may think and focus on how great what you are doing is. Focus on your own game and work it.
Start small, find small things to celebrate like completing a proposal, clearing out your email or saying no to something that did not honour you. Start celebrating the small stuff and you’ll soon find bigger stuff to celebrate.
Create a list of all of your achievements from the day you were born, including being able to tie your shoe laces, completing your GCSE’s, friendships you’ve had for all of your life, learning to drive, support for your family, getting your own place to live, closing that deal, winning a competition, etc., anything and everything that you have achieved. Write that list with pen and paper and then celebrate it. You will be surprised at how much you have achieved and how good this makes you feel.
Hold no limits on your celebrations, whether it’s a cup of coffee or a new dress or a trip abroad. You can even send yourself a card. Celebrate! Remember celebrations don’t have to be of the food kind, it might be doing something that you’ve always wanted to do. Put a date in the diary and then do it!
Focus on what you want and not what you don’t want, constantly remind yourself of what you are striving for and then strive for it!
Put your shoulders back, lift your head high, place your feet shoulder length apart and put your hands by your side … and then walk like a champion. It is amazing how your physiology makes a difference to how you feel. This is what I call the power stance, because you feel powerful every time you put your body like this. When you do, tell yourself “I can”; you will have no choice but to follow through.
Examine who you are hanging out with. If they are energy vampires and are negative, it’s time to start finding different people to hang out with. They say that we reflect the 5 people we spend the most time with – that’s a little scary.
Lastly, change your story, this goes back to number one. Some of you are telling yourselves things that are outdated and no longer applicable. You use words like “always” and “never” about yourself. These words are over-used and over-rated and not applicable. Stop using them now! It’s time to change the narrative, time to change the record. You will have to tell that negative voice to “Shut Up.” This is where those mantra’s come in, you are not the sum total of what happened years ago, last month, last week or even yesterday. You can completely create your tomorrow, so make that your focus not things that have passed.
Stephanie Bolton
@StephanieBolton
You can find out more about Madeline McQueen’s work here madelinemcqueen.com and follow her wise words on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.
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